Some people keep choosing the same relationship pattern because it is familiar to them even though it isn’t a healthy partnership. Familiar isn’t always a good thing such as in this situation.
Why do people choose to stay in relationships that they constantly complain about?
Relationship is a need. When you are at a primary stage of relationship, you do everything for making him or her happy. If you are able to do that, you feel immense pleasure, specifically if your partner acknowledges it. You feel that the person you idolise as symbol of love is appreciating you. Psychologicaly your mind associates that person with your sense of happiness, inner peace, desires etc. You feel to have a person to depend on…a sort of codependency develops.
But over a period of time, this becomes usual and you are no more noticed or appreciated with equal enthusiasm. So the perception about your partner changes. Now you start feeling a lack in your inner feelings and you find your partner responsible for it. Accordingly the talks, subjects, agendas, volume pitch…everything changes.
So the people who says that relationships are bad, are standing at that stage… But the codependency is not